Why Men Ain’t Shit
Dear guys, gals and human beings,
*Emphasis on the human beings that identify as men and their “pick-me pyeons”.*
When people, specifically womxn, utter the heart-wrenching words, “Men are trash”, or for my sistas in melanin, “niggas ain’t shit”, they aren’t talking about the time you rejected the person that was trying to flirt with you in aisle 14 where the beer and chips meet. They aren’t bullying you all because you refused to give them the last $10 that would have paid for your 4 for $4 at Wendy’s. They aren’t slinging the phrase around because they’re miserable individuals who can only attract what they are (by the way, that law of attraction bullshit is misogynistic propaganda and doesn’t apply to abuse and maltreatment of human beings, you dingbat). Black womxn aren’t labeling black men, “the weakest link in the chain” because of the bad experiences we’ve had with men we’ve solely dealt with. They aren’t screaming it from the rooftop because you broke up with them and they’re reeling from the break-up in a bitter way. They aren’t posting it in their TikToks because they’re going through penis envy. It’s not because womxn, tops, bottoms, and feminists are 21st century liberals who are snowflakes on topics that do not matter to you. They aren’t buying the bumper sticker with the statement imprinted on their Honda Civics because they want to piss you off (okay, maybe some but that’s not the point). They aren’t marching in the streets with signs tagged, “Stay out of my uterus” because they want camera time on the local news and it’s damn sure not for clout and fortune from false rape/sexual assault/harassment allegations against power-hungry, hyper-sexual fiends who can’t take no for an answer.
It is because womxn, like Anita Hill, who came forward about being sexually assaulted by powerful men who decide our fates, and become psychological, verbal, and physical targets; furthermore, there are a majority of men ready to interrogate them and send them death threats for speaking out against their assaulters. Men stating that rape survivors are either trying to cash a check or tear a man down from the height of his glory.
It is because black womxn, like Meg Thee Stallion, are gaslit on their experiences and labeled a snitch for outing their abusers; meanwhile, black men like Tory Lanez are moonwalking to capitalism and a free pass off said trauma of a black womxn.
It is because womxn are ready to hopscotch to the other side of the street out of fear of being sexually harassed or assaulted when they see a group of men ahead.
It is because some womxn have to carry a gun just to pump gas at the gas station, afraid that the cat-caller that approaches them might do more than harass them for their phone number.
It’s because men have a tendency to nitpick at the features of womxn, from the type of hair on their head to the size of their feet, voicing their unasked opinion on, “how they like their women'' yet are no closer to being the Idris Elba of their dreams, let alone well-groomed.
It’s because men will talk down and hold their noses high at men like Russell Wilson yet praise and worship boys like Future for his misogynistic lifestyle and gospel preached; on top of that, have the audacity to compare themselves to Russell Wilson as a reason why womxn don’t entertain them as a way of saying, “nice guys finish last”.
The real gag is some of them resemble Russell Simmons, and no, not the riches, fame, and Rush Card, folks.
It’s because there are men who would rather bootleg and cheat sex workers of their honest pay by screen recording their content and putting it on Twitter than to support sex workers for their craft as equal, honest pay.
It’s because there are men who believe that the wedding vow, “for better or worse,” includes infidelity and intentional maltreatment towards their partners except in the case of it being done by a womxn to them.
It’s because there are people, maybe including your family and friends, who still listen to Tory Lanez & R. Kelly because they believe their music is separate from their wrongdoings (P.S: R. Kelly is literally singing about bumping and grinding on teenage, black girls while Tory has a long and recent history of abusing womxn but ya’ll don’t see nothing wrong with that).
It is because mothers would punish their daughters for wearing shorts around men instead of closing the doors on men who eye-down young girls who're just trying to be comfortable in their own home.
It is because black men would call their internalized oppression a “preference” instead of seeking therapy for said trauma.
It is because men have justified the threats of harm and abuse towards womxn if their features resemble too much masculinity.
It is because men and their pick-me pyeons have continuously harassed, bullied, and harmed transwomxn, especially black, transwomxn due to the fact that they haven’t come to terms that their attraction to transwomxn is no different than being attracted to a cisgendered womxn (BECAUSE WOMXN ARE WOMXN REGARDLESS OF WHAT THEIR GENITALS ARE OR CAN DO).
It is because a man or “pick-me pyeon” is probably reading all these reasons and treating this essay as either a threat to their existence, a cause to threaten mine, or a checklist for nice guy points for the “Not all men are bad” cookie award.
It is true that not all men are like this; however, there are too many that aren’t being held accountable to the fullest degree and the result of that is and has been either the death of womxn and even other men, our safety being taken away or damaged, and the esteem of others being seen as nothing more than obsolete objects.
So please, pocket your Cinderella feelings the next time you see or hear about men not being shit. Because it may or may not be you I’ve called out but it may be your homeboy, your brother, your aunt, or even your partner that you’ve pushed to the side when it came down to these conversations.
Dictionary term-
pick-me pyeon (n): a person, usually a womxn, who says or does trivial things to please men in exchange for societal or psychological reward.
