Hoe-Skapades 2022 Episode 4: Homie-Hoppin’ on the side!
Hey B.L.U.N.T Radio!,
I have been a long time listener and avid fan. I listen to you on my commute to work. Anyways, I am in a really messy situation, so please help a girl out.
At the beginning of this year, I started a thing with this guy. At first, I just needed his help with some job applications. Between covid and the inflation I need a second job to pay my bills. But soon enough it turned into a friendship. Which turned into a friends with benefits situation. He’s not the sweetest, but he is pretty damn good in other areas, if you catch my drift. We've been having a thing for a minute. Before he started to get quiet. He was answering my messages and pictures, but not as fast or enthusiastically. I thought maybe it was because my game just wasn’t where it was. But I decided to do some digging. Turns out he got a girl and didn’t tell me! From my digging, I estimate they met when he was on vacation or somewhere. They’ve been dating for a couple of months now. Normally, I’d be pissed and ghost him, but the sex is reallyyy good. He came clean and told me. I appreciate the honesty, despite how belated it is. but I’m willing to forgive him. So now I’m his side chick.
One of the problems is he isn’t responding as fast. Which he has a gf and that’s the side chick business. She gets first priority and I’m the quick picker upper. But I have needs and I thought I would just solve the problem by getting another FWB. He has his bitch and I would have mine. A couple of his friends hit me up and we’re starting to get comfortable sharing nudes. Both will be in town for the holidays. So we’re planning to meet up. The first is super sweet and actually pays attention to me. He doesnt treat me like a body, but rather a person which is nice. The last guy is also same friend group. I have had a crush on him for YEARS. We went to high school together and I thought he was super cute. Plus he’s hella smart- got into Cornell smart. He’s followed me on social media and has seen the glow up. So, he hit me up and will also be in town for the holidays. I was just gonna spend my time with them. A bit of homie hopping never killed anyone. Plus, if he can expand his horizons, why can’t I? He has a gf. So, it shouldn’t be a problem, right? WRONG. I underestimated how much they talk because he got wind of the homie hopping through them talking. They mentioned they’d be in town and would love to hang. He brought up a possible day and one said that he had plans. Mentioned my name. The other mentioned our thing two and side-chick guy DIDN’T take my expansion well at ALL. He doesn’t want to even be friends anymore. He’s so upset. He is saying I crossed a line by going to his friends instead of random people. But even random people would be bad. He doesn’t want to share me. I brought up how he has a gf. He doesn’t have the attention to give to me anymore and I am tired of being a side chick. I want to be a main chick. He got quiet. I know they’re having relationship issues right now. but he doesn’t want to leave her. I don't blame him, she’s hot. But at the same time I’m tired of being put on the back burner. I don't want to stop being fwb with him because the sex is really good. But at the same time the two other guys don't care or at least haven't said anything to me like he has. yet anyways. The first guy is really sweet. he’s willing to take care of me and just be there if anything. I’ve seen pictures and he is girthy. More girthy than the one complaining. The last one is someone I’ve had a crush on since high school.
What should i do? should i dump them both and still be the side chick, hope he breaks it off with the gf. should i dump him and go for the two? should i pick just one of the homies and stick it out with him? I am at such a loss right now.
